My Son Has Anorexia

Contributor: Crystal Karges, MS, RDN, IBCLC Special Projects Coordinator at Eating Disorder Hope

Anorexia is a complex mental illness that impacts countless of individuals across the world, irrespective of gender. A common stigma about anorexia is that it is a “disease of vanity”, or that is it is something that develops from a selfish desire to fit a certain standard of body type.

Anorexia is a brain-based illness that involves a number of factors that one might not have any control over, such as genetic predisposition and neurobiology. Anorexia is also a mental illness that is influenced by psychosocial factors, and the combination of these things can influence that development of this deadly disorder.

Understanding the Impact of Anorexia on Males and Families

Males who struggle with anorexia may face the added pressure of the many stigmas that surround this eating disorder. While greater awareness about males and anorexia is challenging the stereotypes about this mental illness, boys and men may find it difficult to overcome the shame or guilt they may feel about their struggle.

Some males who might be dealing with anorexia may be unsure about the severity of this disease or exactly what it is that they might be struggling with.

A Rollercoaster of Emotions

For any parent or guardian of a son who is struggling with anorexia, the complexity of this mental illness can be overwhelming. If you have a parent of a son with anorexia, you may find yourself going through a roller coaster of emotions, from confusion to anger and frustration to self-blame.

You may find yourself uncertain about your role in your son’s recovery or how to best support him through this process.

Finding Support: Knowing You Are Not Alone

As a parent with a son who has anorexia, you may feel isolated and alone through this struggle. To move forward effectively with treatment, it is essential to release yourself from any self-blame and empower yourself to best support your son. Connecting with other families who may have gone through this journey will serve as a cornerstone through this process.

Consider joining groups such as F.E.A.S.T. (Families Empowered and Supporting Treatment of Eating Disorders), which exist to support caregivers of eating disorder patients. There are resources and support for both you, your family, and your son, that will see you through the recovery journey from anorexia.

Last Updated & Reviewed By: Jacquelyn Ekern, MS, LPC on June 2nd, 2015
Published on EatingDisorderHope.com